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Types of Singaporean F*ckboys

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DISCLAIMER: READ THIS WITH A PINCH OF SALT.
Okay, I never actually thought I’d have to write a disclaimer because I assumed people would know what I’m talking about. But anyways, dear Singaporean men that we Singaporean ladies love, please do not take offence. I am writing about the types of Singaporean Fuckboys, not the types of Singaporean men I’ve come across. And rude ass dudes, hold your horses with the personal slurs, take a chill pill, sit back, relax, and go get a life. Don’t read my wordpress if you’re offended about me “talking about you” when I don’t even know you. Don’t be surprised to know that there are men who actually read this and agree, or are fine with what I wrote – because they know I’m not talking about guys generally, but fuckboys specifically. Why are you so angry!? Lol whut.

And a little dating advice: whatever nasty comment you leave here is a reflection of the kind of person you are. 😉

UPDATE: Read up on the 8 signs you should look out for in a Singaporean man!

I hate to say this but I have come across so many wrong guys. I’ve made the worst decisions ever when it comes to choosing someone as a partner, be it a date or whatnot. By “wrong” I do not mean they’re evil human beings. They’re just guys who weren’t interested in working things out, at least with me. Such guys come in all sorts of forms, shapes, sizes and background.

By f*ckboys, I do not literally mean they’d definitely sleep around or anything like that. It is the fact that they aren’t ready, and probably will never be when it comes to you, but still isn’t guilty of wasting your time. These guys won’t tell you straight up like it is.

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1. The Victim

If the first thing he tells you is how heartbroken he was during the last relationship.. How he was cheated on, lied to and scarred by his previous dates.. RUN. PLEASE. PACK YA BAGS AND RUN.

Reason:
If he is so absorbed in his own sob stories even when he’s already meeting someone new (to be exact, YOU), there is a 99.9% chance that he is emotionally unavailable. He is just not ready. And as much as he will be happy to be in your arms, he is also as happy as being in anyone’s… And not being in anyone’s. Simplified: this guy just ain’t ready. He’s just lonely.

2. The Romantic

The cutie-pie you wish was yours. But he’s also pretty average, making him to be the perfect boy-next-door you know you’d feel secure with. To top it off, he makes you feel like you’re the only one in his eyes. But also, not forgetting to remind you how many girls are in the queue… Upon the first 2 dates, he has already said he would love to marry you. He makes travel plans 6 months ahead with you… But of course, just verbal plans (lol).

Reason:
All those words but has never once initiated to take you out for a good dinner. Never makes plans to do things you’d like to do with you. You mentioned an exhibition you wanted to see but all he said is “Oh”. Girl, trust me….. No guy who wants to be serious with you would tell you he wants to live with you by the second date.

3. The Hypebeasty + cool Instagram feed social media dude

Let’s not forget the ultimate package that comes with a flannel shirt / nude shade outerwear / oversized t-shirts + ripped jeans + small ringed earrings + dad/baseball caps + sneakers. And some group dab photos outside clubs that caption “#squadgoals“. Or occasional rap lyrics with them smokin’ rokok.
This type also has a sub-unit: some claim they’re low profile (with not many followers). But the only low profile thing is you in their lives.

Reason:
All they talk about is how they failed to secure a pair of SGD 400 sneakers on said websites. I’m sorry it is not my fault I don’t trust guys like that. I don’t trust guys who try so hard to look good but insist they don’t. There’s no fault in wanting to look good but the least is to embrace that side of you.

4. The “What-you-see-is-what-you-get” guy

He has always put it out there to you that THIS IS WHO HE IS. He doesn’t try to impress you – and similarly, you’re not very much impressed. You just like him, but he thinks you are obsessed. And accepts your love anyway.

Reason:
He kind of knows he is a douche but he kind of wants to play nice. He kind of wants to be honest about not being ready, but he kind of feels lonely and does not want to admit it. Nobody deserves someone who just kind-of wants to be with you. Make. Up. Your. Fucking. Mind.

Or at the very least, have the balls to say you don’t want this half-assed relationship.

5. The Mature Working Singaporean Man

He’s not like the rest. He is mature and he gives you great advice. He tells you to be serious about your work. He encourages you to work hard and fight for what you want. He’s also 100% supportive of the plans you have for your future.

Except that he’s shady af.

Reason:
Him having a different lifestyle… Or say, much more mature lifestyle as compared to yours, sets a difference. He MIAs sometimes and claims he’s busy… And he has actually met the other girl he mentioned… Wait, didn’t you guys started dating way before he got to know this new girl (who’s not his colleague or friend) BUT he has somehow MET her already… And when you ask him, he says “nah just did lunch because she works nearby” yeah….. Shade is real. I’m sorry to burst your bubble but I’m sure he has colleagues. AND other legit friends to meet for lunch.

 

 

I hope you Singaporean girls enjoyed this post! I’m sorry I can’t write something for the guys since I don’t have much experience coming across the way girls date… But know that us girls still appreciate y’all nice guys out there. 😉

And girls, don’t be disheartened, while I am writing this post, I have actually met the nicest guys out there and trust me, once you know how to sieve out such guys, you’ll stop wasting your time on them. And that’s how you meet people you deserve. 🙂 I’m still working on that though! Haha. And it’s going to be a really busy week ahead with me working on both weekends until Dec ends… (welcome 2017 lol) I’m not sure if I’ll be able to churn out another vlog for my YouTube this week….. but anyway, follow me on Facebook to stay updated. 🙂

Have an awesome week ahead, y’all!

90 comments

      1. It’s just a suggestion which will help her get off her issues with people since her dates are all f*ck boys. Dating only shows that much about a person. Time and commitment is also important in everything we do in life. Priorities change, so do people we can only expect that much. Some day she might just find someone who does care about her though, and it will take both time and commitment to tell. peace out

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    1. So fussy, nobody is perfect in this world.

      You want perfect, only in your dream.

      Get a mirror to have some self reflection first before critical to others.

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  6. I think you might want to reflect your post because it seem like you are generalizing and making assumptions. I am single, guy. Never attached. I don’t fall into any of the category. Maybe cos heart got no battery.

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    1. Noooo I’m not. I’m just putting a more general title for each I have come across. But then again, I’m not writing about ALL guys, I’m talking about the fuckboys in this post. So if you don’t, that’s great! haha

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  9. My gf left me for another guy that she barely knows for a month. When he got her number, he already has intentions to woo her. Our relationship got worse when I let my emotions take over me, jealousy really killed me hard. After doing research about the guy. He’s a playboy and now that she’s broken up with me, they’re already together. Why is the guy such a homewrecker? I and her lasted for going to be 2 years now. Why did this guy appear and was able to win her over?

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  11. Interesting..can tell that you’ve dated quite a bit. Though i’m certain you’d agree with me that 90% of our female population still falls for your categorised types,only to get their hearts horrifically broken later. Perhaps more women would read your post and find PROPER guys and not just that random meathead.

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  14. I am one of them reason for I have lost faith and trust in people, I am not opening up to anyone now accept for those I have to work with or study with

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  16. sadly i have dated guys like that from each category and none of them worked out. most of them still have the cheeks to say “hey wanna netflix and chill?” even after we weren’t date for a couple of weeks already. anyway please continue to write blogs like this i love to read what you write:)

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  21. This one cannot, that one cannot.
    Straightforward cannot, nice also cannot.
    Your a 4 not a 10.
    Don’t expect to find Hollywood guys in Singapore.
    Just be single for life, you’ll definitely have a better life.

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  22. HAHAH all the mad men hating on you prolly cos’ you hit their sore spots. Damn the comments are entertaining from a girl’a perspective. You go girl!

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  25. It’s a really insightful & light hearted read. End of the day, despite your best advice, people will always accept the love they think they deserve. Cheers & keep writing.

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  26. had a small giggle at this article haha.
    idk what is a f*ckboy, i can tell u there are tons of guys whom arent like that.
    go look around at those guys working as waiters/fnb/retail/etc etc, (whom carry themselves lowly with a low profile)

    i can tell u those are the guys whom are working hard and mature enough to really be in a serious relationship, however girls dont quite notice them because they arent like “badboys” and at the same time they dont constantly try to get girl’s attention as well since they have their priorities right.

    similarly as a lady, if you’re the kind of girl whom constantly needs attention and always posting selfies or pictures with “f*ckboys”, not putting effort into your priorities, constantly posting pictures of clubbing and raving, posting pic of make ups and shopping, sorry but those guys will never approach you, because they are looking for a woman whom are mature and have a goal in mind.

    well not judging nor shooting anyone, but yea which mature dude would want a girl like that, in the first place if a lady doesnt carry herself with respect, she will only attract boys(whom are prolly the few u mentioned) and not mature men.

    **THINK ABOUT YOURSELF BEFORE COMPLAINING ABOUT OTHERS** 🙂

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  27. had a small giggle at this article haha.
    idk what is a f*ckboy, i can tell u there are tons of guys whom arent like that.
    go look around at those guys working as waiters/fnb/retail/etc etc, (whom carry themselves lowly with a low profile)

    i can tell u those are the guys whom are working hard and mature enough to really be in a serious relationship, however girls dont quite notice them because they arent like “badboys” and at the same time they dont constantly try to get girl’s attention as well since they have their priorities right.

    similarly as a lady, if you’re the kind of girl whom constantly needs attention and always posting selfies or pictures with “f*ckboys”, not putting effort into your priorities, constantly posting pictures of clubbing and raving, posting pic of make ups and shopping, sorry but those guys will never approach you, because they are looking for a woman whom are mature and have a goal in mind.

    well not judging nor shooting anyone, but yea which mature dude would want a girl like that, in the first place if a lady doesnt carry herself with respect, she will only attract boys(whom are prolly the few u mentioned) and not mature men.

    **THINK ABOUT YOURSELF BEFORE COMPLAINING ABOUT OTHERS**🙂

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  28. Mature working men are not shady, maturity comes with the acceptance of responsibilities and not with age, you can be 50 but still behaving like a 15 year old. You should rephrase as older working fxxxboys instead, cos you’re a male by birth but a man by choice!

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  29. I think this is a good feedback for guys to reflect on. Could you also follow up with recommendations for improvement for each individual type highlighted, or maybe like what type of treatment, character girls will be looking for?

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  30. You’ve just summed up everything about men but not all of these “categories” are fuckboys. Some may share with you their past relationship stories for a conversation topic but do not have the intention to get in your pants. Some may lay out their cards and not put in effort only because they need to be assured first in order to do so. That can be seen as a smart move rather than a fuckboy. A fuckboy is only when they leverage over such “categories just to get into your pants. No doubt assholes but thought this needed to be clarified to interpret your post the right way. Well observed though.

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    1. I have to agree with you. The ones I mentioned are those whose intentions come right through after. And then there are nice guys who are open to being emotional and want to talk about their past, which I did not mention in this article because they’re not “fuckboys” Which, clearly, many didn’t get judging from the comments.

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  32. Dating only shows that much about a person. Time and commitment are both important aspects of life. Priorities change, so do people we can only expect that much. Some day she might just find someone who does care about her though, which only time and commitment will tell.

    *YES, NOT ALL GUYS ARE FUCKBOYS – AND THE ONES WITH PRIORITIES IN LIFE WILL BE HARDER TO NOTICE. AND MOST PROBABLY A BETTER CANDIDATE THAN “POPULAR AND SOCIAL MEDIA FUCKBOYS”.

    ^ Well just go for a man. (About point 5. Don’t be lame, not all men cheat. Paranoia is normal, but unacceptable if you’re gonna corrupt the minds of healthy couples)

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  33. Dating only shows that much about a person. Time and commitment are both important aspects of life. Priorities change, so do people we can only expect that much. Some day she might just find someone who does care about her though, which only time and commitment will tell.

    *YES, NOT ALL GUYS ARE FUCKBOYS – AND THE ONES WITH PRIORITIES IN LIFE WILL BE HARDER TO NOTICE. AND MOST PROBABLY A BETTER CANDIDATE THAN “POPULAR AND SOCIAL MEDIA FUCKBOYS”.

    ^ Well just go for a man. (About point 5. Don’t be lame, not all men cheat. Paranoia is normal, but unacceptable if you’re gonna corrupt the minds of healthy couples)

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  34. It feels like a lot of guys just manages to fall into either one of the categories you mentioned. Can I know the traits of a nice guy that you would be willing to be with or would advice a girl to be with?

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  36. No man every guy is different you can’t just blame the ones who did something wrong. Girls have also part in this thing you did. So what is the ideal guy want? If girls have their own to themselves you are worse than us man seriously If you hate stuff like this then be happy that you didn’t end up with some dude who only uses he’s fist. There’s a lot of good guys out there you just don’t need to be picky. You women say looks are not everything or wealth. You’re all hypocrite man while there’s a lot of good guys but you chose those will hurt your feelings I’d say you’re all just as horrible as those men you called them to be.

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  38. A men will only be ready when he has met the right women. Life is as simple as that. Some guy will never be ready. Having “boy” in the title is pretty self-explanatory. Those offended are still just boys. Be it 15 – 50 year old. Boys that doesn’t grow up and complaining about every single things in life are just boys that doesn’t know how to learn to live with it.

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  39. Well, there are actually more types than the ones you mentioned. I’m disappointed by the youngsters after my generation… Some are like you posted while there are far more worse than these…

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  40. Those who commented negatively sounds like u are a saint.
    Its just a post for her to share her thoughts on “not so nice” people. Dont get it why are u all being so defensive about your own species.
    I bet u are one of those who bitch about singaporean girls too… blah blah blah

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  41. Lots of women complaining about fuckboys.
    Well, if you end up with a lot of fuckboys, it only reflects on you, the choices that you make and the type of people that you surround yourself with.
    Nobody to blame but yourself cause noone forced you to be with them.
    The smart women know how to identify and get good men.

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  43. Well agreed with your statements which looks like almost everyone have their point of words… reading this article which I fall into one of those categories mentioned, since guys talk about their past relationships which was a bad past. Yes agreed as this sentiments states that their life was really a mess no doubt but some guys would use that as a pick up for dumb founded ladies/ gals to fall for it and the part of the guys telling about his past is that he would want a solid transparent relationship and not be torned again… Such as your high and sarcastic answers that you have given which reflects that your rather more a gal/ or shall I say a women which have been beaten badly in the battle of love and potraying a rather awesome person that you are which have much shown a loser side by statements made by your experience which reflects to boys/men that we are all the same. This sentiments made by you highly reflects to all the men’s which timid minded gals like you will make guys like many of us such. Well the facts stated by you which I undoubtfully agree and where by you got to learn yet there are still many of us are just like you that have been lost in the same battle. Adjusting such sentiments will not make those fcukboys lesser as fcukgals do exist and rather make guys fall for their trap …. well so much said vise versa makes the plenty full garden grey.

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  44. Behold, ladies and gentleman, the attitude of the typical Singaporean woman! For the average Singaporean woman, “nice guys” are never good enough. Instead, they go for the bad boys, because the bad boys are fun! When shit hits the fan, (and it always happens eventually, because that’s what happens when immature ladies pursue relationships with immature men), go online and complain about what horrible f*ckboys these bad boys are! Oh no, look at me! I’m the victim here!

    If you’re online complaining about fuckboys, it’s probably because you keep ending up with them, and if that’s the case, you should take a look in a mirror and ask,”Hey, could the problem be me?”

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  46. I am a guy but I do agree with some points that you mentioned. Don’t worry so much about being unable to find the right guy right now. The right dude will come sooner or later. Its is not the end of the world if you are unable to find the right dude. Consider hard before you accept someone’s invitation to be your boyfriend.

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  47. I guess i fall into category 5.. I believe theres two reasons :
    1. Women also do it.
    2. What if I am honest about it?

    Let me explain. In this day and age, if you are a attractive woman with a good attitude I can easily assume you are hanging out with up to 8 dudes semi regularly and be hooking up with between 0 and 3 of them. Everyones too busy and have to maximise efficiency to find that right one. I am totally ok with that as long as everyone has the same room to explore.

    Next you will say what if you are not ok with that. The question “where is this going” inadvertently comes up. I am honest and say I am ok with us seeing different people casually. Does this still make me a f***boi?

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  49. Hahaha! So good. Sometimes playing the pity card helps though. That nudge you need to make a move out of that rot you’re in. But of course, if the intentions aren’t good, you shouldn’t be toying with other people. Just a little motivation to get you going the right path.

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